Category Archives: family

Bouncing Back

Will you be ready when your life changes on a dime? Will you have the coping skills to recover from unexpected heartbreak? Will you have the motivation to get the job of your dreams once you’ve been fired? It’s not easy to pack up and move when your spouse gets re-located. Again. Life has a way of deciding for you when you’re too hesitant or scared to choose for yourself. Put some of these tips in your toolbox the next time something unanticipated comes your way.

Attitude is EVERYTHING!

You cannot control the circumstances that surround you but you are in control of one thing, YOU. Attitude IS everything BUT it is ok to appropriately grieve. It’s okay to feel sad and angry when your lover has betrayed you. It’s okay to feel disappointed to be let go of a job. It is okay to regret houses, jobs, pets and friends lost due to moving too many times. Allow yourself time to feel and fully experience these emotions. Expect difficulties. There will be stretches when you’re fine and other periods, not so much. With time, the overwhelming episodes will subside in frequency and intensity.  It is NOT okay, however, to wallow in self-pity and condemnation. This serves no purpose. You have the power to change the story you tell yourself. It is your responsibility to control your inner conversation. The one that tells you you’re not good enough or not worthy or is doomed to fail or be alone. Take a closer look at what you are saying to yourself. Enthusiasm begets enthusiasm. You DO become what you think. A negative event can awaken ambition, motivation, and persistence, which leads to progress and success.

Don’t Place Blame

Looking for someone outside of yourself to blame for your current situation takes the responsibility off you and puts it on someone or something else. This wastes negative energy trying to find fault or justify and defend why you are the victim. The reality is no one cares. Your friends and family will listen for a minute while you rant about the unfairness of downsizing, divorcing, moving or a litany of things gone wrong. You need to think about how to adjust to the new situation and either fix it, improve it, or make the most of it. Sometimes, you just need to find the lesson and move on.

Nourish Your Body and Soul

Times of change, welcome or not, produces great stress. Now more than ever take the time to eat right, drink plenty of water and get some fresh air and sunshine. Rest and relaxation are equally important. Journaling can be a form of mediation and a great way to express any repetitive thought patterns that arise from unexpected transitions. Run it out. Write it out. But let it out and let it go.

New Vision

It is never too late to reinvent your life. Unexpected change is a time for just that. What are you passionate about? Take time to reflect on who you are and what you want your life to look like. Is it time to go back to school? Quit your job and travel? Go into business for yourself? Take an art or dance class? Find what excites you and pursue it. Focus only on the present moment and what you can do right now to create your best life.

“The secret of change is to focus all of your energy not on the old but on building the new.” — Socrates

Live in your truth,

Tonya

Gratitude

As we continue into the “Thanks” giving weekend, I realize I’m thankful for so much more than the usual “family and friends”. Appreciation is the ability to recognize and understand the worth, quality or importance of something with full awareness. Don’t get me wrong. My family is my life and my friends are great. However, these days I’m grateful for the peace I have in knowing that every challenge and trial I face brings me closer to the person I am meant to be. I am thankful for knowledge I have and continue to gain by being a perpetual student regarding health and wellness and for the ability to share that through my blog and in my community. I learn so much from the people who share the details of their lives with me, because nutrition is more than food. We need to be fed and nurtured emotionally and spiritually or life is out of balance. The Christmas holiday is right around the corner. Don’t get caught up in the commercial frenzy of the “shop ’til you drop” mindset. Save your hard earned money and what little energy you have and focus on the one thing that will make a difference in the lives of your friends and family: YOU! Your time and attention. Put your wallet away. Turn your phone off. Make a fire and some hot cocoa and play a game with your kids. Put on some soft music and hold your spouse close. Call your mother. We are not guaranteed tomorrow so make the most of 86,400 seconds you have today! I know I will!

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Stay Vibrant,
Tonya

 

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Deny the MIXIFY

Wow. The lengths companies will go through to get their share of your stomach and your wallet. Enter the American Beverage Association who represent the refreshment beverage industry. Namely SODA. The ABA, along with PepsiCo, Dr. Pepper and Coke, are launching a new campaign called: MIXIFY. Have you seen it? They want to show you how soda can play a role in a balanced lifestyle. REALLY?? The soft drink industry brings in billions of dollars of revenue every year and shows no signs of slowing down. Their number one concern is profit. Period. Not your health or the health of your family or children. Now they want to let you know that it’s ok to have soda, just balance it out with what you do. Super active? Go ahead and drink up! Sitting on your butt all day? Better have just a little!

Call me horrified but not surprised. After all, companies like Coca Cola and other big name conglomerates fund classes for hospital dietitians to show them how artificial sweeteners and processed foods can play a part in a patient’s life. Especially if they’re diabetic. Again, REALLY??

But I digress. Let’s take a look at the ingredients in soda, shall we? High fructose corn syrup, phosphoric acid and sodium benzoate are in most soda formulations and depending on the brand may also have caramel coloring, caffeine, brominated vegetable oil. artificial colors and/or sweeteners and don’t forget “natural” and/or artificial flavorings!

High fructose corn syrup is highly processed and leads to tissue damage and disease. Phosphoric acid starts to dissolve tooth enamel in 20 minutes.  If you pour a liter of Coca Cola in your toilet and let it sit overnight it will dissolve all the built up mineral deposits. Imagine what it’s doing to your poor bones! As for the sodium benzoate, it has the ability to deprive the cells of oxygen, break down the immune system and cause cancer. if you’re a fan of Mountain Dew I bet you didn’t know you were downing a bunch of brominated vegetable oil, sourced from either corn or soy and initially used as a flame retardant. It is banned in food in Japan and Europe, yet it’s good enough for us Americans! Ugh!

Do your health and your budget a huge favor and ditch the pop. Replace them with liquids that actually hydrate and nourish the body: water, sparkling, fruit infused or otherwise, herbal teas, even the occasional cup of good ‘ol joe is preferable to soda pop, however sweet and bubbly it may be!

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Stay Vibrant!

Tonya

 

 

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I’m Baaaaack!

Hello Friends!

It’s been a crazy year and few months for me and life is dramatically different but in a totally good way! I’ve recently entered the unpredictable world of being SELF-EMPLOYED! Lucky for me, it involves EVERYTHING I’m passionate about: food, health and making a difference!

Check out my new pages: How to Find Me! and How to Work with Me!

Stay Tuned and Stay Vibrant!

Tonya

Birthday Blessings

Forty-nine years ago today something special happened. I did not know it at the time. It was the day a certain man was born. He’s had some challenging times in life but his contagious, positive, can-do attitude inspires those around him, especially me. He motivates me, encourages me, supports me, no matter what crazy endeavor or project I’m in to. He is devoted to the loving care of his family. He’s a quick wit, always ready with a joke and a smile. He is determined that the kids should have a smooth, struggle-free life, not understanding that they’re going to do things their way, the hard way. He wants them to feel loved and safe and protected from the ugliness and hardship that is prevalent in today’s world. He works hard to provide the necessities as well as the extras not just for the one teenager (and all his friends) left at home, but for all of them, grown or otherwise. He blesses me everyday with his love, his passion and his loyalty.

I want it all with him. The flaws, stress, smiles, affection, sarcasm. Everything. My life has led me to him. My choices, my heartbreaks, my regrets. It was all worth it. Because if I had done just one thing different, I might never have met him.

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Stay Vibrant!
Tonya